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Does love have to be so complex?

I can feel the Fall breeze in the Summer air. This Summer was filled with LOTS of family time.

We as a family (my mom, dad, and brother) have had some heart-probing breakthrough conversations.

I’m going to be writing about this soon.

What I’ve realized on a whole new level is that at any point, the most important people in my life could pass. And any feelings I harbor but don’t say to them will come back to haunt me.

I’m so committed to my own personal freedom that these conversations with my family have freed me into a space of LOVE that can’t be described in words.

Leaving you with this thought: When we create a powerful connection with the people who created, shaped, and nurtured us – we can access limitless LOVE.

It’s my mission to continue to bring the tools to help create those connections to you each and every week.

In today’s episode of Kavita TV, we’re talking to Tina who is in a relationship and has been wondering if she’s wasting her time – or if she should give her relationship more space to grow.

See what was happening was that Tina finds physical touch (things like cuddling and holding hands) super important when it comes to expressing affection.

A lot of times, when Tina would ask for cuddle time with her boyfriend, he would object or say he needed space.

But there were also other times when he would offer it and initiate willingly.

These mixed messages would throw her into a place of “Is he the one for me or not?”

Check out what I say to her, and also look at what keeps you from really knowing when someone is right for you.

Watch this weeks episode of KavitaTV.

At the 10:50 mark, I reveal exactly what she needs to ask her boyfriend to get clear on why there’s been a disconnect, which will help her know if she should stay or go.

When you’re done with this episode, leave a comment and let me know what you thought.

In Love,
Kavita

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  • Laura

    I was in a similar situation–he was not physical touch as much as me and was quality time. He ALWAYS needed to spend some time just “being” (no touch) w me before he was ready to connect– like Kavita said–it’s just overwhelming to them to “dive right in”.I also shared the 5 LL book with him and he got better knowing that I needed that to feel connected.

    Sadly this relationship didn’t last for other reasons but I am ACTIVELY going to look for a relationship where our top 2 LLs match. It is VERY challenging to connect with someone whose LL is completely opposite of yours. Gift people give me ANXIETY!!lol!

    Kavita you are awesome to watch and I have really enjoyed these TV interviews!

    • Kavita

      Hi Laura, Thank you for sharing. You don’t need someone exactly like you. Its more about being able to communicate with each other through each others love languages to show love and appreciation. 🙂

    • http://kavitajpatel.com Kavita J Patel

      Hi Laura, Thank you for sharing. You don’t need someone exactly like you. Its more about being able to communicate with each other through each others love languages to show love and appreciation.

  • Priya

    Timely video…Tina and I are opposites in that I’m more like her boyfriend in emotional needs and she is like my boyfriend. We just had a conversation about how I push away his gestures of love because they overwhelm me. I want him to get the attention he needs from friends and family so that it is not all on me to provide that for him. I think I’ll show him this video…or at least share some of the key points 🙂

    • Kavita

      Amazing Priya, I love that you will share that together.

    • http://kavitajpatel.com Kavita J Patel

      Amazing Priya, I love that you will share that together.

  • LTR

    This reasonated with me- I had the opportunity for hot, one night sex with a much younger man. Yes, my ego was boosted- nice to know I’m still desirable- but I want more than that. I want the intimacy of conversation and getting to know someone. This realization of my true needs has come from open talks with friends and family. From opening myself up to receiving love from the world- a stranger told me I radiate light, like sunshine. With my open heart, I know I will attract a good man who sees my giving nature and won’t take but appreciate me and all I have to offer.

    • Kavita

      That’s beautiful! Thank you for sharing.

    • http://kavitajpatel.com Kavita J Patel

      That’s beautiful! Thank you for sharing.

  • Delightful5

    Thank you. This video with Tina was so on point with questions that I had been having in my mind. I really liked the suggestion with getting it from others and not placing it solely on the other person. This is true and it also let’s you see what is really needed in your life. I realized a few things about me and how to clean up and support my realituonship and being true to me. Excellent advice on the matter. My only thought would be, if he is in a happy place with his job and being near his daughter, dud he ask me along or is he happy this way. I would make a decision based on our goals. Even if they are different, it should be supportive and allow room to grow, connected. If not, then I realize I can’t wait forever and move on.

    • Kavita

      Thanks for sharing Delightful!

    • http://kavitajpatel.com Kavita J Patel

      Thanks for sharing Delightful!

  • Krystal

    Hi Kavita, great video and great timing. With the help of your videos/blogs, I asked the guy I was seeing for “more time” and “better communication”. His response was, “I find you attractive”, “I know we are compatible”, but I’m “busy” and “not ready to prioritize my life just now”. However he also said, “I want to settle next year” and “I’m not always going to be this busy”, “I do plan on reducing work hours”….and said until then he would love to stay in touch and be friends if I’m ok with that. He briefly summarized the main reason being a off/on relationship of 3 years with an ex; seemed he wanted to avoid any additional questions from me after so I also gave him that respect and space and didn’t ask anything about it. I took about a day to think about this and told him “When you are ready and if I am still available, I would love it if we became something more than friends. But for now, I’m ok with being friends, as long as we are both genuinely excited to see each other and we are honest with each other”. He agreed and said he appreciated my “understanding”. But I haven’t heard anything from him in 3 weeks now. How do I ensure I’m not wasting my time and he is genuine?! I’m in a constant battle of “what if…”

    • Kavita

      HI Krystal, He was very clear with you that he just wants to be friends. Your definitions of what it means to be friends and keeping in touch may be different but he was clear that he doesn’t want a relationship right now. Re-read what you wrote above as if someone else wrote it. Do you see the difference? Live your life and date but don’t wait.

    • YouMakeMeFeelLikeA

      I think you supplied your own answer when you said “when you are ready and if I am still available…”: go on with your life, see other people, and if and when he is ready and seeks you out, you can include him in your circle of love. Don’t seek him out–he needs to do the work at this point since he has put the brakes on the relationship. But if you allow yourself to meet and date who you will, you may either find that there is someone else better suited to you or that he may come around in a genuine way and be ready for the relationship you want and deserve.

    • http://kavitajpatel.com Kavita J Patel

      HI Krystal, He was very clear with you that he just wants to be friends. Your definitions of what it means to be friends and keeping in touch may be different but he was clear that he doesn’t want a relationship right now. Re-read what you wrote above as if someone else wrote it. Do you see the difference? Live your life and date but don’t wait.