A few days ago, Hemal and I were walking on the beach with a good childhood friend of mine. As we approached the Santa Monica pier he turned to me and excitedly said “Let’s go on the roller coaster!”
My first reaction was to say no but instead I said “Umm I might throw up.”
I looked at the roller coaster again to really assess if it was something I wanted to do and thought, why not –“Let’s do it!”
The minute I said that I had every thought go through my mind…
What if I get sick?
I have got a lot of work to do today – I should go do that instead.
Is this really worth it?
Despite these thoughts, I did it anyways and am so glad I did.
Riding that roller coaster was the highlight of my last few weeks. It was unexpected and exhilarating. I felt like a child again – I had no idea what I was getting into and that was the best part!
So how does this relate to love?
I am telling you this story because I have noticed, as I’ve gotten older my willingness to do something spontaneous, unknown, and risky has plummeted.
Children love to go on rides and after having their bodies flung side to side, all around and even upside down they say… “Want to do it again?!”
As we get older we cling to what’s known. We go to the same restaurants and keep the same friends. We interact with our families from the same stories we’ve had since we were 8 and we attract in men that we know how to deal with and forgo experiencing something new for the sake of routine.
We cling to what we know – even if it isn’t leading us to what we really want or desire.
I want to talk to you about courage, today.
Because Soul Level Love takes courage. It takes venturing into the unknown.
“Courage is risking the known for the unknown, the familiar for the unfamiliar, the comfortable for the uncomfortable.” – Osho
I know that after being single long enough or even after getting out of a relationship, you start to question everything.
Will I be too old to have kids?
Will my Ex ever realize that we are right for each other?
Will I ever get married?
Will I be able to meet a man that is my match?
Will I be in a relationship with someone that accepts me for me?
Will I lose myself like I did in my last relationship?
Am I too old for love now?
Will I be a cat lady?
Will I ever find true love?
Fear shows up when the future is unknown and the urge is to cling to what we already know in order to feel secure. But in doing so, we shut down our ability to truly see all of the options and what is possible in each moment.
What if we could be open to the unknown instead of striving to feel secure?
How would your love life look different if you began to see the lack of security in your love life as an adventure versus a crippling thought?
How would it feel to enjoy the ride versus accelerating yourself to the destination?
The truth is, most of us are rushing through life – trying to get to a certain “destination”. We are gunning it to get through school, get a job, get married, have children, buy a house, have a life that looks fabulous, and then we die.
When we live life this way it will always feel like something is missing. Without a little adventure and taking steps into the unknown, life will never feel complete.
Riding that roller coaster was scary yet thrilling. I felt LIFE shoot through me and push away feelings of boredom, numbness and complacency.
I felt freedom once again!
As I write this to you it is a wake up call for me too. Venturing into the unknown with excitement and willingness can be so powerful and cause LIFE to open up to us again.
Are you with me?
Tell me below what you discovered about yourself through reading today’s post and what adventures are awaiting you in the unknown!