Why love doesn’t just happen
Being a high-achieving, successful, professional single woman, you’re told that love should just happen. That when you’re not looking he will somehow appear.
These messages are everywhere.
You can’t watch a ROM-COM without watching a beautiful, talented, successful man fall head over heels for the love of his life, and pursue her without her even knowing he’s the one.
Maybe you had deluded yourself into thinking that once you were ready, there would be a line of high-quality men waiting for you.
Then you look at family members or friends who just bumped into love and are now married, building or blending families and it seemingly wasn’t hard for them.
Truth is you’re a go-getter, ambitious.
You usually get what you want.
You haven’t gotten to where you are in your career by just standing on the sidelines doing nothing or very little.
But what I see all the time, in my decade of working with high-achieving women, is that they fall into two camps.
One camp is… you refuse to settle and you believe love will just happen. You don’t want to come across desperate or needy by trying too hard at love, because it’s not like you need a man. You’re okay with being alone. In fact you would rather be alone than be with the wrong person.
You have a more Laissez faire attitude about it all.
Second camp is you’re putting in a lot of effort. You’re on so many online dating sites, you spend hours swiping left or right. You’ve gone out on date after date, and you’re exhausted. You could write a book about all the crazy, insane dates you’ve experienced.
Or maybe over time you’ve gone from one camp to the other.
No matter what camp you’re in, you’ve read the self help books, listened to the podcasts, you know what attachment type you are…
And you’re probably wondering…
I’ve tried it all, what am I missing?
Here’s the thing, you’ve been looking in all the wrong places and you’re exhausted, so you default to just waiting for the right place, right time, and not looking.
But you know as well as I do, because you’ve gone through this cycle before of trying and then not, that it doesn’t work.
Finding and keeping soul level love has to be INTENTIONAL and you have to put in the effort…(but not in the way you think).
My masterclass goes into further detail of what being intentional means, go watch the REPLAY first and then come back here.
Soul level love isn’t just any kind of love…
- It’s the kind of love that pushes you to your limits of intimacy.
- It forces you to expand your capacity to be loved unconditionally.
- It accepts you for all that you are (even the messy parts).
…and asks you to feel so safe from within, allowing your deepest vulnerabilities to be revealed because you KNOW he will be right there adoring and loving you.
Soul level love asks you to look inwards and heal anything that’s unhealed, so that you can recognize true love when it’s staring you in the face!
But right now you’re stuck in sabotaging patterns like:
›› Attracting in emotionally unavailable men
›› Choosing the wrong men that aren’t worthy of you, and simply don’t care for you the way you should be cared for
›› Choosing men that can’t handle your success, that feel inadequate because of it
›› Getting married, then divorcing, because you unknowingly settled
›› Feeling resentful and bitter because it seems men can’t be trusted
Looking at your patterns that are unknowingly having love stay at bay is exactly where you need to put your INTENTION and ATTENTION.
That’s where you need to put in the EFFORT.
You might think you’re ready, you’ve been open, in fact you’ve been so open that it’s resulted in deep heartache in the past.
BUT unless you’ve done the work to look deeper within yourself to uncover how YOU are showing up to love…
You haven’t truly opened your heart, you’ve just been unknowingly playing out old patterns.
And you’ve probably tried it all, but not in the places that MAKE the DIFFERENCE, that transform the way you choose and show up in love.
I know you deserve Soul Level Love.
I know you know you deserve Soul Level Love.
The truth is nobody told you to look inwards, you didn’t know that you had subconscious sabotaging patterns in the driver’s seat of your love life…
…or maybe you did and it feels scary to face.
Well, here’s the thing, most of these sabotaging patterns didn’t start with you. That’s right, they didn’t even start with past relationships. They are old and have been there for decades.
(I will go into this more in the next email.)
Without putting in the work, soul level love just stays slightly out of reach. It will feel like you’re close, and then the man you fall for…chooses another woman, or doesn’t want to commit, or even worse…betrays you.
Have you experienced that? Being so close and then it all falling apart?
In fact my client Kara, a high-powered lawyer, thought love would come easily, and it did. When she met her ex-husband at a happy hour, it was natural. It didn’t take a lot of effort; it felt like it was meant to be.
Once they got married, she felt unfulfilled, underappreciated, and resentful for years. She found it hard to ask for what she needed and wanted, and when she would, he couldn’t respond the way she needed.
She came to me really wanting to not make the same mistake again.
She wanted to be more intentional and dig deeper into what had her settle unknowingly in the past, release it, so that she could meet her soul level love.
We uncovered and released her subconscious sabotaging patterns and shortly after that she met Noah, which is truly the love of her life. He challenges her to evolve into her best self, as she does for him. She asks for what she needs and wants and nothing is off the table with Noah.
And Kara’s dream of having a family came true too. They now have a son.
So, it’s all about INTENTION and EFFORT in going inwards to uncover what you don’t know you don’t know right now.
And let me be clear, this isn’t something you can do by yourself.
I’ll show you how through doing this work, you will experience a LIBERATION, a sense of freedom in your love life, you’ll easily attract high-quality men EVERYWHERE you go, and choose the right man that has the keys to unlock and fulfill your deepest desires.
And it’s not because you need this but because you WANT this.
The OUTCOME is priceless.
Next: High quality men, where to find them…