High quality men, where to find them
The #1 question I get asked is…
“Kavita, where do I meet high-quality men, especially during a pandemic?”
My answer is simple, and I will answer it in just a moment, but the truth is this question is the wrong question to be asking.
Because underneath this question is the belief that finding and keeping soul level love is as easy as meeting the right man in the right place.
Here’s the hard truth, I don’t like sugar coating things. It just wastes too much time.
Knowing exactly where to meet high-quality men isn’t the ANSWER to why you’ve felt challenged in your love life for years, maybe decades.
You might be thinking, “But, Kavita, if I don’t know where to meet a man how will I ever make progress in my love life?”
I’m going to explain exactly why asking this question is actually holding you back in love.
I know you’re waiting for my answer to your question so here it is….
You can meet high-quality men (no matter what your age)…
I’m sure that felt anticlimactic.
But it’s true.
My clients have found soul level love in first class on an airplane, on the slopes of Aspen, at a local coffee shop, and even right next door (their neighbor).
I’m sure you’ve heard other experts say, go to high-end hotel bars or lounges, or sign up for meetup events where people like the same hobbies as you, or go to single events.
Here’s the thing, you’re smart, you’re aware, and you don’t have time to waste.
Being a high-achiever, someone that doesn’t settle, truth is you need different advice.
So, here it is.
The question you should be asking yourself is, “Who do I need to become to attract high-quality men everywhere I go?”
WHO DO YOU NEED TO BECOME?
Because if your walls are up and you are in protection mode, which 99% of women are given what they are subconsciously carrying around from the past, then you will NOT recognize soul level love even if it was staring you in the face.
Here’s the kicker, even people that are married have chosen their partners from this protected place, and that’s why according to a study done by Siemens Festival Nights, 75% of people surveyed said they settled when they got married.
That’s an insane number to me, but it also makes sense.
Most people are unconsciously looking for someone to love BUT they aren’t doing the work to have soul level love.
Because soul level love, where settling isn’t an option, does take work. It isn’t a passive process, it requires you to explore your inner emotional world and unearth what’s actually in the driver’s seat of your love life (I’ll explain more in a second).
You might think…
“I’m good with being alone, I don’t need someone. I won’t settle”
But in moments when loneliness hits you because you’re human, You might find yourself…
Reaching out to an ex just to fill some space.
Drinking to numb out the loneliness.
Eating to feel better.
Drowning in Netflix.
Those actions actually say it all.
Here’s what I mean by exploring your emotional world.
You have Karmic Patterns, or love blocks, that have been imprinted on your subconscious by your family, parents, siblings, step-parents, grandparents, those that raised you.
How you witnessed love between your parents (even if you were raised by a single parent), felt loved, and how your parents see love have all been ingrained in your subconscious.
And I’m not talking about wallowing in the past, like therapy has you do.
Here’s what I’m talking about, let’s say your mom didn’t trust your dad.
You watched how she would say hurtful things to your dad because of her mistrust.
You had an emotional response to that, maybe wanting to protect your dad, maybe being angry with your mom, or maybe angry with your dad for just taking it.
These emotional translations have you stuck in patterns so that you protect men at the expense of your wellbeing.
OR you mistrust men, following the same pattern as your mom.
Or maybe you’ve been betrayed in relationships.
These are Karmic Patterns and they lock your heart up. Without releasing these Karmic Patterns, your heart simply can’t open.
That’s why you’re still in protection mode most of the time.
But when you actually do the work to unearth and release your Karmic Patterns, through my signature one of a kind process called The Parent Work, that’s when your heart truly opens up.
When that happens, you will spot your soul level love a mile away.
You won’t miss it.
It’s actually quite extraordinary, you will just have this deep peace and knowingness, but more so, you will have the skills to continue the journey to ensure he’s your perfect match.
You deserve to waste zero time and energy on someone that isn’t worthy of you.
That’s what Soul Level Love sets you up for.
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