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When I was younger, I was spirited.

I would frequently get into trouble at school for talking too much and for being too loud, and I distinctly remember getting mad every time I was told by a teacher I was “too “something.

I felt expressed. I was being myself and having fun, and as soon as the teacher would tell me to quiet down or stop talking, I felt less free, like I couldn’t be myself.

In childhood there are many moments like these where we want to do one thing but then are told to do another. This happens to all of us in some way.

As children we go from being fully expressed, having fun, and knowing exactly what we want, to slowly feeling heavy, feelings of hurt, guilt and pain.

Little by little we stop hearing what we want. We unknowingly let go of our dreams or put them on pause. As little girls we probably wanted to be a teacher, doctor, and ballerina all at the same time, and those dreams were replaced with what people told us was possible or not possible.

We start walking down the stable safe path, and along the way, again often unknowingly, we forget our dreams.

We forget what we really desire.

We forget that anything is possible.

We become more concerned with being validated or liked, doing what others tell us or what others perceive as the “right” thing and we lose our soul’s path.

Even if you love what you do right now, you can still lose the magic in it. You can lose the connection to the soul of why you loved it in the first place.

And honestly, it’s essential to our journey to get lost every now and then, because through that journey we evolve.

We grow into the next version of ourselves.

The catch is…

The evolution occurs when we admit we’re off our path, when we admit we aren’t as happy as we could be, when we realize that it could be better than it is.

Even if we don’t know what that looks like right now.

If you’re resonating with anything I just wrote, or feeling not so expressed in your life right now, there’s a reason.

And it has nothing to do with there being something wrong with you.

You’re being called to something bigger. You’re being called to dream again, to tap into your desires.

Now I get it, our minds can get in the way.

Our mind can conjure up all kinds of horrific scenarios to keep us from following our soul’s path because it’s usually in the direction of the “unknown”.

The mind doesn’t like the “unknown”. It fears it because it feels unsafe.

AND it’s so important, even crucial, to venture into the unknown.

That’s where intimacy lies, understanding of yourself and others, and the feeling of being alive!

Venturing into the unknown makes me think of adventurers like Christopher Columbus or Neil Armstrong.

They had no idea of what lied ahead. They took all the precautions, practiced, and tested all kinds of scenarios, and yet the journey into the unknown came from one of trust, passion, and belief in themselves.

It doesn’t take 100% belief or 100% trust. It just requires a deeper connection with yourself, experiencing your worthiness and knowing that no matter what, you will be okay. That’s when the magic flows.

When I asked my parents what I loved the most when I was child, they said I was always giving older kids advice, telling them what to do, and presenting them with different perspectives to consider.

Voila…exactly where I feel the most expressed even now, meaningful, thought provoking, perception shifting, conversations.

Tell me, what did you love when you were a child? What are your current dreams and desires you’re scared to declare because it’s in the unknown? Tell me in the comments below.

In Love,
Kavita

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  • Hélène

    Very appropriate this week as I am trying to reconnect with who I was as a child and what I loved to do.

    I remember that I was laughing hard and several times I was kicked off class because I couldn’t stop laughing.

    I loved to create scenarios with Playmobils and Legos. At 6 I was organising shows at recess and controlling a lot of kids, forcing them to sit down and watch. I loved to use chairs, drapes and everything possible to create huts and houses. That’s all I remember! I wanted to go sailing around the world or travel and don’t go to school.

    • http://kavitajpatel.com Kavita J Patel

      Helene, love this. Thank you so much for sharing. Do you see any similarities to what you love to do today?

  • Jodi Graham

    Yet another great post Kavita. I absolutely love reading everything you write 🙂 And this childhood passion question is so important!

    I’ve actually wondered what I loved MOST (I can think of 100 things I liked, but not what I LOVED), and your post has inspired me to take some time with myself to sit down and really think about it. Thanks 😉

    • http://kavitajpatel.com Kavita J Patel

      Jodi, thanks so much. Humbled. Yes what have you come up with around what you LOVE?

      • Jodi Graham

        I did always love organizing information – I would gather every book and other source in the house about a particular subject and write up a one page summary, LOL. Organized life = organized mind 😀

  • Jennifer Molinar

    This is so me right now. I recently lost myself in a relationship and have been taking steps to connect back to what I love to do as an individual. It’s been challenging, yet lovely and healing. One of my passions is dancing. Another that I’d love to do again that I did as a child is playing percussion instruments. Also, I hope and dream of buying a house this year and getting married and having a baby soon after.

    • http://kavitajpatel.com Kavita J Patel

      Hi Jennifer, great dreams and desires. Make sure you dance a little everyday if possible:)

  • Rachna

    I’m the youngest of 5 kids. so I liked to pretend I was a teacher and/or motivational speaker and loved telling stories when I was child. It is what my current business is about. On the surface I’m a whiskey coach but my company Whiskey Stories really is about storytelling and inspiration. I am super proud of it and I feel super free doing it. I totally get this blog and appreciate it. An extremely cherished memory I hold dear to my heart is when my Indian mother was apprehensive about me working in Whiskey until she saw me in action and said “Oh I get it now. You just want to tell stories. Like when you were little.” and from that point on she was completely on board with it.

    • Kristina

      Love this storytelling and how you can express it in your life occupation, Rachna.

    • http://kavitajpatel.com Kavita J Patel

      Hi Rachna, love this! I also love that you’re living out your strengths and your gifts. It’s undeniable when you are. Even this story is that you just told is beautiful!

  • Bernadette Dockery

    As a child I use to dream about traveling the world. Visiting different places and learning about different cultures. Now as I work at a job that is helping people recover from hurricane Sandy. I still have that desire to travel. And i was blessed to encounter a travel business and all i want to do is free people. Show people a different type of life style. I am currently approaching friends and family about this opportunity. Just looking for some people who want freedom and provide a upscale lifestyle for their family.

    http://www.whatyoulikebest.com

    • http://kavitajpatel.com Kavita J Patel

      Hi Bernadette, I love “all I want to do is free people.”

  • Kristina

    Very beautiful post. Thank you, Kavita !
    I can relate. I was “too much” at school. I was not at good schools, actually there was shaming abuse concerning me “being too clever”. I wanted to communicate with teachers, communicate about the topics, make deep discussions, get great deep information, read new information and creating something new through this process. I did not find much counterpart (unless for one month being a scholarship which was so awesome, I was seen as talented). I felt bored at school and not allowed to let my mind work and feel the mental joy. I might have also felt as “not normal” to be mentally strong (in comparison to the other children). Most of my friends were “simple” people, I had not much to talk with them about -definitely not about the stuff I like to. Such a lonely world.
    I feel that I can only allow myself being with people, jobs where my mind cannot be happy, my mind must hide.
    I had desired to be part of the universities, do some innovative work, researchers -the few people I could have talked for long time, who did listen to me, who I felt alive with. Safe path was the path of being a physician – I choose it myself, but I wanted to be the one that is in the research or applying it. I left medicine, I did not like to be part of the system that is not interested in healing and I went for my dream of being a scientist. The problem was that I did not know in which area -I was not clear, I was insecure, I think that I am stupid,I did not know how the work is being done..and I met supervisor who did not supported me (he was probably himself a very unsuccessful person in innovations) and did a lot to show me that ” I am not good enough for him”. I understood it too late. I ended up losing it all. I became chronically sick.
    So many people talked me into not being in the research and have a “proper, safe job” instead ( even the therapist: telling me “it is also good enough for me”).
    It is a source of deep pain and hurt. It feels like I´d be cheating my soul…if there would not be the innovative part, the power of mind, the liberty of mind.

  • Kristina

    Very beautiful post. Thank you, Kavita !

    I can relate. I was “too much” at school. I was not at good schools,
    actually there was shaming abuse concerning me “being too clever”. I
    wanted to communicate with teachers, communicate about the topics, make deep
    discussions, get great deep information, read new information and creating
    something new through this process. I did not find much counterpart (unless for
    one month being a scholarship which was so awesome, I was seen as talented, a
    big change in my life). I felt bored at school and not allowed to let my mind
    work and feel the mental joy. I might have also felt as “not normal”
    to be mentally strong (in comparison to the other children). Most of my friends
    were “simple” people, I had not much to talk with them about
    -definitely not about the stuff I like to. Such a lonely world.

    I feel that I can only allow myself being with people, jobs where my mind
    cannot be happy, my mind must hide.

    I had desired to be part of the universities, do some innovative work,
    researchers -the few people I could have talked for long time, who did listen
    to me, who I felt alive with. Safe path was the path of being a physician – I
    choose it myself, but I wanted to be the one that is in the research or
    applying it. I left medicine, I did not like to be part of the system that is
    not interested in healing and I went for my dream of being a scientist. The
    problem was that I did not know in which area -I was not clear, I was insecure,
    I think that I am stupid,I did not know how the work is being done..and I met
    supervisor who did not supported me (he was probably himself a very
    unsuccessful person in innovations) and did a lot to show me that ” I am
    not good enough for him”. I understood it too late. I ended up losing it
    all. I became chronically sick.

    So many people talked me into not being in the research and have a
    “proper, safe job” instead, they told me what it is “good enough
    for me: one therapist: telling me “it is also good enough for me to be a
    physician” even though I am not that happy), other people create
    confusion: another therapist” I had not done anything proper in my life,
    any clear job”. Narcissist family who let me in those schools where many
    children barely knew how to read, also told me “that not everybody is that
    good at thinking”…, I cut the contact with father´s family because of
    their huge pressure into me being a physician (in their hometown, the best) and
    the insults when I did not became what they wanted me.

    It is a source of deep pain and hurt. My mental capacities being put down and
    ridiculed.

    It feels like I´d be cheating my soul when I will let go my desire of the deep
    mental aspect…if there would not be the innovative part, the power of mind,
    the liberty of mind.